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#6: Single × Happy

Day 6 of  30 days writing challenge.


Single × Happy

It is quite impossible to be single and happy in this country. The problem not rooted from the person his/herself, but the surroundings, esp. the nosy people will kept on hooking you up with random dudes. Lol. But since this is today's topic, let's elaborate.

Self love

You don't need other people to be happy sounds a bit cliché, but it's true. After 5 years of loveless marriage, full of deceit and lies, to finally be free again felt so wonderful. But it's not easy, being a divorcee--regardless it's your fault or not--especially when you're a female, considered as a flaw and brought shame to one's family. Random dudes (including old goats with wives) tried to flirt with you. Absolutely disgusting. Your parents kept on nagging you that they want grandkids (quite impossible when you're single, unless I can clone myself or split my cells into two to create another me or mini me). Alas, only got about 2 years of single period: a year fully for getting the divorce papers which was amazingly considerably swift (yes, a year was fast, thanks to my shitty ex who's a total asshole, it's nice to have people helping you finally because they know that you're married to a jerk), and another year as a full divorcee. 

During those 2 years I finally learned that you can be happy without men, nosy men, especially ones that can't control their dicks and learned about self love. 

What is exactly self love? Well, for a start, you can do things that make you happy without anyone saying you can't be happy. You can go wherever you want, be with whomever you want to be with, spend your money for yourself, etc. 
Went camping, traveling, sightseeing, shopping, without a care. Last thing on your mind is your spouse (since you don't have any. Lol). Actually it's not that bad, and it was a happy time. I don't have to prepare anything for anyone (well maybe except your parents, because as a divorcee I had to move back to my parents' home--this is a bit absurd 'cause I don't really enjoyed to be dragged to their cult meetings (won't be discussing this now, it's a long--and still ongoing--story). Everything was great in average anyways.

What's wrong with being alone then?

Everything! Why? Because everyone's at your nerves telling you to be married! Again! This is exactly the only reason why one should not be single, to many nosy people! 

Not that I'm saying I'm not happy to be remarried with a super nice guy (he's like the most patient person I've ever met) and I'm lucky that I'm now with him. But it's off topic to talk about this now. Lol. 


Anyway, too many people spent too much time trying to make single people be with anyone, random anyone. And it's not nice. You see, everyone deserves to be happy, but it's not always with someone. Sadly, the country we're living in is filled with nagging people, and it's hard to be single and happy because of this.

One might say, "Oh no, you got this wrong. They're only trying to be nice so you won't ended up alone." Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but being alone apparently is better than being with people that only using you for their cover-ups, while they're busy playing tinder looking for bitches and be a repulsive leecher. For this exact reason, I never try to matchmaking my single friends ever again, except when they're already know someone and they need a little bit of boost. 

So, it is possible...

especially when you have no care in the world for other people's thoughts or say. Being single is not a sin, you don't have to be with someone to be happy. You can be happy single or not.




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