Ameru's blog

Eversince I was a child, as far as I can remember, my parents (esp. my mother) always told me the sole importance of being a woman is to be someone's wife (!) and bear his child (!!). You know, it's indeed imprinted deeply in my mind, since I was three years old that my existence only verified by me being a perfect girl and mother. And what makes it worse, I always told that no matter what, we have to have a girl as a successor--well our tribe is matrilineal. I was raised to belief this. My life isn't exactly Shakespeare's, yet it's kinda full of tragedy and unexpected turns. See, these things aren't good for young minds since one cannot be free from the aim for being someone's wife (!!!) and I've dated guys with no intention on getting married anytime soon. So yeah, it was chaotic. I was too naïve to read the situation back then and have no guidance from my parents--they're strict and conservative, still are up 'till now. No way they will give...

  Day 5 of  30 days writing challenge. Parents Quite a sensitive topic I presumed. Okay, let's start. Why is it so important? In east culture , having children is what defines you. Society dictates people to have children despite they're feasible or not. Lately, there have been more talks on socmed such as twitter  about toxic parenting , and it splits people into two major groups: (1) anak durhaka (unfilial child), and (2) anak emas (golden child). These groups apparently have their own sets of standards, which makes it impossible to blend  them together. How is it so different?  The first group consists of people with ranging experience on toxic parenting; could be from severe, harshly abusive parents, to gaslighting or minor symptoms of neglect or parental egomania. People in this group are seemed to be having repressed childhood, having major trauma issues that impacted their lives. The second group consists of people that luckily have non-destructive, lovi...